August Health Focus: Transitions
Our health focus forAugust 2010 is life transitions. Check the website frequently for new updates.
”Therefore, if anyoneis in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” 2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV
Life never stays the same. There are several stages withunique challenges that make each one memorable. As new parents you add new responsibilities and a baby toyour life while trying to establish yourselves as a couple. This new role meanssharing your spouse with someone else so make sure you talk to each other, havea date night, and share your struggles. Adjustment is easier when you know whatchallenges exist.
The next stage is the teen years and the bid forindependence. This coincides withfinancial concerns such as maintaining a home, supporting the family, preparingfor college, and possibly helping an elderly parent. Know that the caregiverrole for your child is starting to end. To prepare your child for adulthood,teach him/her about financial and personal responsibility and be open with yourspouse about any conflicts you have about letting go.
Next is sending your child off to college, career, ormarriage. You are no longer the parent/controller but a friend/advisor. If thisis your last child it may mean reconnecting with your spouse since the previousyears have been focused on your child(ren). You might also be adding the roleof caregiver for a parent. Keep in mind as you struggle with your changingroles, your parent is also struggling with his/her loss of independence. Bepatient, include your parent in decisions when possible, ask siblings andfriends for help, and be honest about your feelings.
The last stage is retirement where some have a loss of identity because they no longer work while others find new beginnings. To make the transition successful, consciously look for things to do. Resurrect an old hobby or find a new one. Travel to visit family and spend time with your grandchildren. If you can’t travel, call them on the phone or use email. Stay connected and interested and you will find a whole new world.
(Source: Magellan Health Services www.magellanassist.com/mem/library)
References / Resources:
Search the following: retirement, boomerang generation, family transitions, parenting
www.aarp.org – American Association of Retired Persons – many articles on retirement, life changes, boomerang generation, and role transitions
www.focusonthefamily.com/ - Focus on the Family – search ‘life transitions’
www.cdh.org/News.aspx?id=120986 – Central Dupage Hospital – tips on the boomerang generation
www.mayoclinic.com – search using terms listed above
www.adolescenthealth.org/The_Healthy_Student.pdfControl - Society for Adolescent Medicine – tips for parents and college students